Honor Her History and Family Make a family photo album. It can be informal, or you can refer to books or games to help guide the flow of discussion. Set a date now to have a heart-to-heart conversation about some big issues. Have you always turned to mom for her wise counsel? You may worry about a time when she won’t be around to share her wisdom and experience. A donation to her place of worship in her honor would most likely be gratefully received.Īsk for her advice. If appropriate, in advance of the service contribute flowers or ask for a prayer or special mention for mom. If mom is up to it, accompany her to her place of worship for the day’s service. Many faith traditions plan special services around Mother’s Day. If mom has given her heart to a charity or organization over the years, now is the time to honor that generosity and continue her good work. Show mom how much you respect her commitment to the causes to which she’s been devoted. Honor Her Values and Beliefs Donate to her favorite cause.
These ideas are meant to inspire your own- Share with us how you have honored someone with cancer in your life. Follow her lead if she’s tired or seems resistant, try again another day or suggest something else instead. When pursuing any of these ideas, remember, they are meant to be in honor of mom, with her needs and desires at the forefront.
You may wish to start a project together on Mother’s Day and complete it later. Some of these are simple gestures, while others are more involved projects that can be done over time, on your own, or, if possible, with mom or other family members. Here are some suggestions for honoring mom in a heartfelt way this Mother’s Day. A gift that honors the unique attributes of the person being celebrated is welcome anytime. It recognizes, in some way, their shared journey through life. Ideally, it should mean something to both the giver and the receiver-perhaps it reminds them of time spent together, a place they loved, a dream they shared. Of course, a gift needn’t be costly to be priceless. You may want to use this Mother’s Day as a time to thank mom for all she has taught you, to let her know how she has influenced you to become the person you are today, and to honor her for the many gifts she has given you and to do it in a way that will be moving without focusing on her illness or the uncertainty of the future. Illness, especially a terminal illness, brings change on us in ways that we can’t anticipate. Chances are these gifts either are no longer appropriate for someone who has terminal cancer, or they no longer feel adequate. Perhaps your Mother’s Day celebrations in the past required only sending a card or flowers or planning a family brunch or dinner at a favorite restaurant. It may also be difficult now to express profound feelings we may fear that we will dampen the festivities by making everyone sad or by reminding them of mom’s illness. We feel we must buy just the right gift, say just the right words, behave in just the right way. Holidays and other special occasions can put a tremendous amount of pressure on us to perform in a certain way. It may be difficult to find the right emphasis to put on Mother’s Day this year. Observing this holiday with a mother who has terminal cancer may become especially challenging as time becomes more precious-and pressing―and is measured in weeks or days rather than years. Because Mother’s Day focuses on one of life’s most important and complicated relationships, it can be particularly filled with emotions and expectations.
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Just as there is no age requirement for cancer, there is no age limit on motherhood and the mutual bonds of lifelong love and responsibility that grow from it.Īs the second Sunday in May approaches, many families find they must now grapple with how to celebrate Mother’s Day while coping with mom’s cancer. From the newest moms of the youngest babies, to great-grandmothers whose children are now senior citizens, cancer can strike anyone. Mothers of any age can, and do, get cancer.
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